“Clutter is not just physical stuff. It’s old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self.”
This past week I decided it was time to reclaim my second floor and remove Grace the mother cat, the 3 kittens, and all of their cat/kitten toys from the 2nd floor of the Kent Emporium.
As an FYI – there are still 3 “too cute for words” kittens available for adoption.
I’m always in awe when animals teach me about myself. For me, I have learned some of my best life lessons via cats. This summer, Grace the mother cat, and her kittens taught me a lot about what I was not seeing in my life.
The clutter I was hiding in the closets.
This clutter wasn’t just physical stuff, but also bad habits, and old beliefs. As I started to review the items in my closet, I wondered how this happened.
How did my closets get so out of control?
As I started to review the items in my closets, I realized I had the bad habit of throwing items into the closets during remodeling projects. And instead of getting rid of the items while remodeling, I would just throw the items into the closets with the game plan of addressing them at a later date.
So last week I decided to tackle my closets. As I removed items I no longer used or wanted and put them into the donation boxes, I started criticizing myself for wasting my most valuable resource (time). Why didn’t I simply donate these items during the remodeling projects? I started to go down the judgmental path of calling myself lazy and for letting this situation get so out of control. When I caught myself in the self-criticism and judgement story, I stopped and asked myself…Is that true? Am I really lazy? Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m not lazy. So I started to ask myself …
What core belief am I carrying around? What is holding me back?
I started to think about my father and his love for holding onto everything. Even if something was worn out or broken, he would still hold onto it (and the farm barns reflected it – as it took my mother 1 year to clean up everything after his death). My mind then shifted and I started thinking about my last employer (agriculture) and how, with every line rebalancing/restructuring/remodeling, the plant would send racks, equipment, and various other items to the “Bone Yard”. Basically the company closet, where items are hidden away from plain sight so that the visitors would not see them. And every plant did this and when you asked them why, the response was always the same…
You never know – money might be tight in the future and I might need these items to be resourceful
For the 7 years, while I worked at that company, I can honestly say that we were maybe able to reuse < 5% of the items. So even businesses had the same thought process as my father. So I asked myself the question…
Where did this belief come?
I could say it came from my father, but my father never worked at this agriculture company. So the belief was bigger then just a family quirk. I always remember my father talking about the Great Depression and how they grew their own food and how they had to hold onto every item out of…
Fear of never knowing if there would be enough.
So this is the real story of why I had closets full of stuff (and businesses have Bone Yards). I had a subconscious belief sitting in my closet. I didn’t even know I had this subconscious belief until 1 cat and 4 kittens showed it to me. The beauty of uncovering a subconscious belief is…
Once you see an unconscious belief, you can not un-see it!
So what did I do? I acknowledged the Great Depression story and how it became a part of my own belief system and how it served me in the past. As a result of that old cultural story, I was raised to be very resourceful and a great saver. However this belief had run its course and was no longer serving me. Saving stuff I was never going to use again was taking up valuable closet space. Plus holding onto this old belief was preventing me from investing my money more wisely (via feedback from my financial advisor). And most importantly, this old belief was preventing me from taking the next step forward in my own success by keeping my talents and gifts hidden (in the closet) so I would be safe and secure. What a great “surprise” moment to finally recognize that…
My closets were showing me a subconscious belief that was holding me back.
I could of criticized and judged myself for wasting years holding onto this old belief, but instead…
I simply let the old belief and myself off of the hook.
There was no blaming or shaming – or would or/could of/should of thoughts – I just simply let us both off of the hook with no strings attached. Because what is over, is over. Suddenly I felt a 100 pound weight being released from my shoulders. I didn’t realize that I had been dragging around a very heavy rod/reel/and a belief on the end of a hook, until I recognized it, named it, and released it by letting the belief and myself off of the hook.
What are your closets trying to telling you?
Are you ready to let an old belief off of the hook so you can move on and bring your gifts and talents into the world?
Are you ready to…
Are you ready to turn your dreams into reality?
Are you ready to SHINE?
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