“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ~Joseph Campbell
At every turn (stores, office, music, etc.) this week, the word “dream” appeared. It was rather hard to ignore the message, so I took it as a sign to move forward and develop my next inspired step towards my dream. And that is when….
The rubber hit the road!
I could not move forward and it was not for lack of trying. As I stared at a blank piece of paper (multiple nights in a row), I realized what was stopping me…an old dream I hadn’t let go of. I don’t know about you, but….
When it comes to dreams, letting go can sometimes feel like giving up.
This is not the first time I have had to let go of a dream. But in hindsight I do realize that an extraordinary life grows from knowing when to let go of one dream and trade it in for a new dream.
Acknowledging what you’ve learned while pursing the dream is the key to letting it go and finding joy in the experience.
Life is a process of learning about yourself and finding which goals and dreams will make you happy. With this comes the opportunity to abandon some as well. The trick is learning to decipher the difference and having the courage to make the call.
Giving up an old dream is not about abandoning yourself, but rather honoring yourself.
As you try new things, you grow and learn more about yourself. Your tastes, preferences and ideals change. Growing with the changes will help you feel more at peace. What did I learn about this old dream that I was secretly holding on to….
I learned this dream had an expiration date.
In my coaching sessions, I have clients who ask, “When is it time to let go of a dream?” I always say, “When it leaves your heart.” We can’t force things to be right when they feel wrong. Your heart knows what is best for you. Trust it.
Sometimes we have dreams that yearn to be realized and as we live them, we learn they are not what we thought. Maybe they aren’t our happy ever afters, but that doesn’t mean the dream was a failure.
Dreams are a lot like relationships. Some are meant to last a long time, while others are designed to be explored. Trying on your dreams is the best way to live a fulfilled life, but let go of expectations about the outcome.
Don’t be so hard on yourself if your dreams die. Changing your mind and moving from one dream to another is part of living a balanced life. Even still, you may be wondering if it is time to let go of a dream. Here are three simple ways to find out.
1. When you no longer feel it in your heart. Not all dreams are meant to last forever. When you feel the dream in your heart, it is time to act. Sometimes when we live out a desire, we learn more about the dream and ourselves, and we realize it is not what we want. If you don’t feel it in your heart, it is time to stop faking it and move on.
2. When it feels like a chore. If a dream has exhausted you — physically, emotionally and mentally — you may feel as though it is too hard to make the desire work. And it might be time to let go.
3. When you start day dreaming about the future. One of the best signs it is time to move on? When you start to daydream about better ways of being. If you are living your dream but fantasying about a new direction in life, realize it might be time to say goodbye to what no longer works.
Many people feel reluctant to throw in the towel on their dreams because of the sinking feeling they’ve invested a great deal of time, money or energy into it. But when you can turn your attention to the lessons learned and the positive outcome of living out that dream, you will be able to see the bigger picture. Remember, everything is connected, so nothing is ever lost or wasted.
Sometimes letting go of a dream is the best thing you can do for yourself.
Are you holding onto a dream that needs to be let go?
Is your dream inspiring you or depleting you?
Are you day dreaming of the future?
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