Monthly Archives: February 2017

Letting Go Of A Dream

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“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ~Joseph Campbell


At every turn (stores, office, music, etc.) this week, the word “dream” appeared. It was rather hard to ignore the message, so I took it as a sign to move forward and develop my next inspired step towards my dream. And that is when….

The rubber hit the road!

I could not move forward and it was not for lack of trying. As I stared at a blank piece of paper (multiple nights in a row), I realized what was stopping me…an old dream I hadn’t let go of. I don’t know about you, but….

When it comes to dreams, letting go can sometimes feel like giving up.

This is not the first time I have had to let go of a dream. But in hindsight I do realize that an extraordinary life grows from knowing when to let go of one dream and trade it in for a new dream.

Acknowledging what you’ve learned while pursing the dream is the key to letting it go and finding joy in the experience.

Life is a process of learning about yourself and finding which goals and dreams will make you happy. With this comes the opportunity to abandon some as well. The trick is learning to decipher the difference and having the courage to make the call.

Giving up an old dream is not about abandoning yourself, but rather honoring yourself.

As you try new things, you grow and learn more about yourself. Your tastes, preferences and ideals change. Growing with the changes will help you feel more at peace. What did I learn about this old dream that I was secretly holding on to….

I learned this dream had an expiration date.

In my coaching sessions, I have clients who ask, “When is it time to let go of a dream?” I always say, “When it leaves your heart.” We can’t force things to be right when they feel wrong. Your heart knows what is best for you. Trust it.

Sometimes we have dreams that yearn to be realized and as we live them, we learn they are not what we thought. Maybe they aren’t our happy ever afters, but that doesn’t mean the dream was a failure.

Dreams are a lot like relationships. Some are meant to last a long time, while others are designed to be explored. Trying on your dreams is the best way to live a fulfilled life, but let go of expectations about the outcome.

Don’t be so hard on yourself if your dreams die. Changing your mind and moving from one dream to another is part of living a balanced life. Even still, you may be wondering if it is time to let go of a dream. Here are three simple ways to find out.

1.  When you no longer feel it in your heart. Not all dreams are meant to last forever. When you feel the dream in your heart, it is time to act. Sometimes when we live out a desire, we learn more about the dream and ourselves, and we realize it is not what we want. If you don’t feel it in your heart, it is time to stop faking it and move on.

2. When it feels like a chore. If a dream has exhausted you — physically, emotionally and mentally — you may feel as though it is too hard to make the desire work. And it might be time to let go.

3. When you start day dreaming about the future. One of the best signs it is time to move on? When you start to daydream about better ways of being. If you are living your dream but fantasying about a new direction in life, realize it might be time to say goodbye to what no longer works.

Many people feel reluctant to throw in the towel on their dreams because of the sinking feeling they’ve invested a great deal of time, money or energy into it. But when you can turn your attention to the lessons learned and the positive outcome of living out that dream, you will be able to see the bigger picture. Remember, everything is connected, so nothing is ever lost or wasted.

Sometimes letting go of a dream is the best thing you can do for yourself.


Are you holding onto a dream that needs to be let go?

Is your dream inspiring you or depleting you?

Are you day dreaming of the future?


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Robin

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Your Self-Care Attitude

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“Honestly, self-care is not fluffy – it’s something

we should take seriously.”

~Kris Carr


 

I knew where this week was going even before it even started…a week of facilitating global business meetings Monday through Thursday from 8-5. Normally I find these type of meetings fun, collaborative, and exhilarating, however even before I walked into this weeks’ meetings I had some negative vibes (hidden agendas, witch hunts, and power plays). I knew that I could not control my external environment….so what did I decide to do?

I turned my self-care attitude into action.

What does my self-care attitude look like…

  • scheduling a massage the weekend before the meetings
  • planning and booking a weekend adventure with friends
  •  packing my traveling altar
  • playing my singing bowl for a few minutes every day
  • creating daily fresh banana, yogurt, kale smoothies in my hotel room
  • drinking freshly squeezed lime water daily
  • wearing boots that make me feel empowered
  • surrounding myself with quotes that remind me of who I am
  • saying “No” to attending the 4th group business dinner of the week
  • making space daily to exercise
  • scheduling reflexology the weekend after the meetings

It has taken me years to develop this self-care attitude and make time for myself. I was raised to believe that every ones needs came before my own. For years I believed that…

  • Self-care is selfish.
  • Self-care is expensive.
  •  Self-care is time consuming.
  •  I don’t need self-care.

These beliefs made committing to self-care for myself difficult. Do any of these beliefs sound familiar to you?

What I have learned about self-care…

  1. It is okay to take care of my needs and feelings. (If I don’t, who will take care of me?)
  2. I can take care of myself without being “selfish” or neglecting others. (There is room for everyone’s needs and feelings.)
  3. Self-care doesn’t have to cost money or a lot of time. (Self-care is an attitude, not a trip to the Caribbean.)

So what is your self-care attitude?

Do you put your needs and feelings first?

What one small self-care action can you start today?


myy-quirksConnect with me on Instagram and/or Facebook. I would love to hear about your one small self-care action you are taking today.

Robin

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Inspire.Be Inspired.

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“You know all those things you’ve always wanted to do?

You should go DO THEM.”

~E.J. Lamprey


Last Saturday I had the most inspiring day. I attending the S.H.I.F.T. Workshop in

Woodbine Illinois and had the opportunity to speak about Soul Coaching and

provide two “boots on the ground” examples of my work in motion:

  • a shamanic meditation that provides an answer to your personal problem in a form of a “gift” from a spirit guide.
  • a dance meditation (Chakradance) that awakens your intuition, connection, and trust.

As I watched everyone participate (even a few with apprehension), I was truly

inspired by their actions. Why?

Everyone was Daring To Decide and….

  • Step into the unknown,
  • Have courage
  • Be open and curious, and
  • Find joy in the journey

Everyone’s actions inspired me to take my next step this week!


Post-celebration

I’d love to connect with you on Instagram and/or Facebook.

For those that follow me on Facebook…on Sunday February 5th, I will be pulling angel cards. Look for my Facebook prompt and respond with “Yes Please”.  I will pull a card specifically for you and respond with the picture.

The Angel Card will provide you with inspiration as you take your next step.


myy-quirks

 

XXOOXX,

Robin

Your guide to bringing your gifts out into the world and making you shining!