Last week I was beginning to think that I’ve been in a rut…a yearlong rut to be exact. But as I started to reflect and peel back the layers, I was startled to discover that I was not in a rut at all, but I have been in mourning. I started to make a list of what I’ve accomplished in the past year and uncovered the underlying theme:
- Letting go of an apartment that took up too much energy
- Letting go of the illusion of “living the American dream”
- Letting go of the concept of being a corporate career climber
- Letting go of how I defined myself to my friends, to my family, and to Corporate America
- Letting go of old “victim” stories that no longer serve me
- Letting go of toxic friendships
- Letting go of a loving relationship that no longer made me happy
My mantra for this year has been to “create and live an extraordinary life”. And today I finally realize that I’ve been “making space in my life” in order to make this mantra a reality. I never knew that I would have to let go of so much! And yes…there are moments when it hurts and I feel like a complete failure!
This past weekend I walked through a book store (one of my favorite ways to reconnect with spirit when I’m feeling sad and lost). As I randomly walked the book aisles, this book jumped out at me.
In the book, Pema Chodron states: So a mantra you can give yourself is, ‘I’m okay. I haven’t done anything wrong here.’ And at the same time acknowledge that it’s really painful place to be. You can rephrase your self-talk away from, “I am a failure; I’ve really messed up here. I am fundamentally unlovable. I am fundamentally broken.”
“Hey, wait a minute. This is really painful, but I haven’t done anything wrong.”
LETTING GO <> FAILURE
Wow…I never realized that historically I have always associated “letting go” with “failure”. Imagine being able to let go and walk away from a situation with out being branded a failure.
- What do you need to let go of in order to make space for something new?
- Why are you afraid to let go?
- What story do you tell yourself in order to avoid letting it go?
- If you were guaranteed 100% that letting go would make space for something extraordinary to enter your life, could you just relax, let it happen, and allow the magic to unfold?
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